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3 Signs of a Bad Therapist

If your counselor doesn’t clearly demonstrate that he is listening carefully to everything you say, then he isn’t doing his job

How Do I Know if I’m Receiving Quality Therapy?

Listed below are three traits of a counselor who is not offering quality service.

  1. Demonstrates poor listening skills – If your counselor doesn’t clearly demonstrate that he is listening carefully to everything you say, then he isn’t doing his job. You should never have to wonder if your therapist heard you or if he understood your point. Your therapist should make every effort to actively listen to you, often by paraphrasing what you say back to you so that you can let him know if he understood correctly. When something you say isn’t clear to him, he should ask questions until he is fully aware of what you are communicating. If your therapist talks more than he listens, doesn’t always acknowledge you, or takes phone calls during your sessions, you probably need to find a new counselor.
  1. Appears to be critical or disdainful of the client – If you feel like your therapist looks down on you or if he treats you as an inferior, then you are probably not going to benefit from sessions with him. Rather than helping you develop healthy self-esteem and equipping you to solve your problems, counseling sessions with someone who openly disapproves of you may leave you worse off than you were before therapy. If you frequently feel that your therapist is judging you, it may be time seek help elsewhere.
  1. Does not maintain healthy boundaries between client and therapist – One important concept of quality counseling is known as the “helping relationship,” which is a term used to describe the relationship between client and therapist. Within this relationship, the counselor’s sole purpose is to help you, the client. In fact, everything the counselor says to you should be with the goal of helping you solve your problem. By directing the conversation toward only therapeutic discussions, the counselor creates healthy boundaries. The counselor should not try to be overly social with his clients, although a warm greeting and exchange of “how are you” at the beginning of a session is fine. And of course, a therapist should never seek a romantic relationship with a client. Without a healthy professional relationship between therapist and client, therapy cannot work effectively.

If you have concerns about the efficacy of your therapy session, you can try to discuss what you are worried about with your counselor. Your therapist may understand your concerns and be willing to change certain elements of your therapy so that you feel more confident about the therapeutic process. However, if your therapist dismisses your concerns and refuses to make any adjustments, if he stubbornly defends his methods and puts his own pride before your wellbeing, then he is a bad therapist who cannot help you. A good therapist would take your concerns about the course of your therapy seriously and would be willing to help you feel more comfortable and confident about your counseling sessions.

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