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Family interventionFor a family intervention to be successful, everyone must be committed to ending their enabling behaviors.  This means understanding what enabling is, and communicating with other family members about their own behaviors and concerns.  Giving the addict money is the most obvious enabling behavior, because the money can either go directly to drugs or be used to forestall circumstances such as losing an apartment that would force the addict to confront problems.  Many parents need help coming to terms with the absolute and inflexible necessity of this rule.  They simply cannot bear the thought that without money from them, their child could end up homeless, sick or physically harmed. Even when they fear that the money is being used for drugs, they relent and offer help in order to lessen their worries about these other potential tragedies.

Planning a Family Intervention

That is just one reason why speaking with an expert is an important step in planning an intervention – because first you must come to terms with the changes you will have to make in your own life and attitudes.  An expert will talk you through all of the consequences of enabling behaviors and the forms they can take.  When you waver, as you inevitably will, the doctor or interventionist will be there to remind you of the hard truths and help you help your loved one.

There are countless other little ways that family and friends often enable the addicts in their lives.  From picking up the slack of neglected chores to lying to hide the condition from others, small actions have greater consequences.  Sometimes a spouse will phone work to tell the addict’s employer that her husband is sick, or a brother will deny to a concerned teacher that his sister is showing any signs of anger or anti-social behavior at home.

Children and a Family Intervention

If there are young children in the family, they will have their own needs and concerns. Though they may not be able to providing enabling with measurable consequences, they are going to be affected by the intervention and the changes in the family that have to take place.  An interventionist can help parents talk to their children about the addiction and intervention in a healthy and helpful way.

When not everyone in the family can be available for a family intervention, it is important to enlist the support of those who are elsewhere. Make sure that they understand the gravity of the situation so they will not shelter the addict if he simply tries to relocate and claim that he was treated unfairly.

For help planning a family intervention in Tennessee, call (888) 371-5722.